ADHD
Why is your life so hard
Perhaps you’ve noticed how much harder life seems for you than the others you know. You’ve tried to get organized and stay on top of things but those “squirrel” moments keep you from having it together for more than a few days or a few weeks. You’re looking for ways to feel confident in life but your scattered brain is holding you back.
You see others who always seem to be in control, meet deadlines, show up on time and with everything they need to perform in an “acceptable way” according to societal norms and expectations.
You can’t focus on certain tasks but can’t break away from others.
Your self-esteem is low even though you know you work harder than most. But it never seems to help and you are tired of being judged by those who don’t understand how your brain works.
You are quick on your feet but clumsy.
You are creative and care about others.
You are great in an emergency but you can’t pay your bills on time.

Many of the limiting beliefs we learn about ADHD start early in life, whether you were diagnosed or not. These beliefs can be shaped by our families, teachers, and experiences with school, and they often set the tone for how we view ourselves and our abilities as adults. These perspectives can be limiting and discouraging, especially when ADHD goes undiagnosed or misunderstood for years.
If you were told that you were “lazy,” “not trying hard enough,” or “disorganized,” those messages can carry into adulthood, leaving a lasting impact. Maybe your struggles with focus and attention were dismissed as carelessness, or perhaps you were labeled as someone who just didn’t “measure up” to expectations. Over time, these stories can erode your self-esteem and lead to feelings of inadequacy or failure.
- Believing you’re “not smart enough” because of difficulty focusing or keeping up.
- Feeling overwhelmed by daily tasks, leading to procrastination or avoidance.
- Constantly battling the fear of being judged or criticized for forgetfulness or disorganization.
- Overworking to compensate for perceived shortcomings, leading to burnout.
These experiences and beliefs can create a pattern of self-sabotage, where adults with ADHD may struggle with staying organized, managing time, and feeling productive, even though they often work harder than most.
The effects of ADHD in adulthood are often felt across multiple areas of life:
- Work and career challenges: Adults with ADHD often feel overwhelmed by deadlines, paperwork, and managing multiple tasks. You may be highly creative but struggle with the executive functions needed to stay organized and follow through on projects.
- Relationships: ADHD can impact personal relationships due to difficulties with communication, forgetfulness, or feeling emotionally dysregulated. You may feel frustrated with yourself or misunderstood by others.
- Self-worth and confidence: Over time, the daily struggles with focus, time management, or organization can lead to a cycle of frustration, where you feel like you’re always falling short of your potential.
Even when adults with ADHD are aware of their condition, the emotions tied to years of feeling “different” or “not enough” can still weigh heavily, making it harder to break free from those patterns.
Brainspotting offers a way to break through the limiting beliefs surrounding ADHD and tap into the deeper emotional roots that may be fueling these patterns. Often, the challenges of ADHD aren’t just about focus or time management—they’re tied to feelings of shame, frustration, or overwhelm that have been building for years. These emotions can become deeply ingrained, making it hard to change patterns even when you’re motivated to do so.
With Brainspotting, you can:
- Release yourself from the experiences of living in a world that functions differently than you
- Release limiting beliefs tied to ADHD, such as feeling “not good enough” or constantly overwhelmed.
- Develop healthier patterns around focus, organization, and time management by processing the emotional blocks that get in the way.
- Feel more confident and empowered in your work and personal life, recognizing the unique strengths you bring to the table.
- Experience greater emotional balance, helping you navigate the ups and downs of ADHD with less frustration and more resilience.
By reprocessing these deep-seated ADHD stories, you can let go of the shame, frustration, and self-doubt that may have been holding you back, opening the door to a more fulfilling and balanced life.
Jeanene also has extensive experience working with people who are twice-exceptional. Also known as 2E, this refers to a person who is gifted along with having ADHD and/or LD. This is a population of people who are often misunderstood, and viewed as lazy for not living up to their full potential due to their giftedness camouflaging their disability. Poor self-esteem is often the result for these individuals.
If you’re ready to rewrite your ADHD story and embrace a more empowered path, Brainspotting could be a transformative tool in your journey. Reach out to learn more about how we can work together to help you thrive with ADHD, both personally and professionally.
When you schedule a session with Jeanene, you will start to see that living successfully with ADHD is possible and maybe even enjoyable.